How can I get genuine love from others?

If we want to be loved by others, first we should love others without expecting that love to be returned.

How can I make better relationships with others?

The most important requirement for better relationships is to love others, as love is the password
for entering into the hearts of others. Also practice giving more and taking less.

How can I live in peace and harmony with someone
especially when we (husband and wife) don't share
the same value systems, which strains our relationship?

Value concepts may be different from person to person. Unless such concepts are unethical,
one should not criticize them. Place emphasis on where you agree with others, not on where you disagree. Try to ignore the shortcomings of others, as much as possible, without expecting them to do the same in their dealings with you.

I have a problem with one particular person with whom I cannot even talk to and it is not even possible go near that person yet I cannot totally dissociate from him. How can I solve this problem?

a. Please consider whether other people also have the same problem of communication with that
    person, or if it is only you that does.
b. Find out if that person has some good qualities which others appreciate, but you may have
     overlooked or not been aware of.
c. Observe what he/she likes or dislikes and try to adjust your behavior.
d. If we change ourselves before trying to change others, we may find that others change, too.

How can I deal with a tough and difficult person?

Try to observe that person's likes and dislikes. Interact with him or her accordingly. We should try to accommodate others as much as possible without compromising with our principles.

I have a problem communicating with a colleague at work
even though I try to be kind to him/her. What should I do?

The most important requirement for better relationships is to love others, as love is the password for entering into the hearts of others. Also practice giving more and taking less.

a. Please consider whether other people also have the same problem of communication with that
    person, or if it is only you that does.
b. Find out if that person has some good qualities which others appreciate, but you may have
     overlooked or not been aware of.
c. Observe what he/she likes or dislikes and try to adjust your behavior.
d. If we change ourselves before trying to change others, we may find that others change, too.

How can I always be nice to others?

By trying to see God in others and to understand and love them, and to offer them a helping hand whenever needed.

How can I see always positive things in others,
as sometimes it is difficult?

We are generally aware of our own nature. Yet, even if we know our negative sides, do we hate ourselves? No. Moreover, we expect others to overlook our shortcomings. Similarly, even if we know another's negative traits, we should not mind them or be upset with them. Hence, try to ignore the weaknesses of others, appreciate their good qualities and pray for their well being. Let our ideal be to become a bee which seeks only honey, and not to become a fly which also seeks filth.

Having been betrayed in a close relationship, I believe no one and I feel life is meaningless. Is my way of thinking incorrect?

In our lives we have relationships with various persons. If someone has betrayed me, there are others who consistently love me. So why should I dwell on a solitary case of betrayal and forget all the other cases of love and compassion? Life offers us many experiences, good and bad, so that we can learn from them and thus grow and become perfect, which is the goal of our life.

In my business, I have to deal with many high ranking or elderly people of Rajasic temperament. What can I do?

Get yourself firmly rooted in the `Sattvic` state through regular spiritual practices and self-analysis and then you can handle the Rajasic people correctly. Be soft and polite in manners, but at the same time be firm in matters of principle.



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